It’s been quiet on here. I realize. I spent the past few days with my dad in the hospital, in Switzerland, holding his hand and telling him over and over how much I love him. Wish I would have done that more often sooner. Maybe you can?
Also, what’s a word that describes both heartbreaking and beautiful at the same time?
The word is in your title. Life.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 5:53 am
Sending love xx
Oct 30th, 2018 / 6:12 am
Oh, I did the same with my dad 3 years ago. THIS is all there is. These moments. Hold their hands, tell them they are loved.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 6:54 am
Caregiving
Oct 30th, 2018 / 7:10 am
ganz viel Liebe und Kraft für Deine Familie Tina <3
Oct 30th, 2018 / 7:10 am
The word is “life”.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 7:12 am
Best wishes to you with your dad in Switzerland. Wonderful that you are there. All strength and good for you. Best, Roger Ellman
Oct 30th, 2018 / 7:40 am
HOPE
Sending you all our love
Oct 30th, 2018 / 7:44 am
Sending love. This photo is so full of love- from him to you and you to him. Went through this recently with my father and experienced the same feelings. Grace was the word that kept coming to me. There can be beauty in witnessing someone bridge worlds. Releasing them, our hearts can feel like they are expanding and contracting at the same time. Yet our loved ones never really leave us. One can have a rich, beautiful, heart expanding connection with a loved one after they transition. There is so much love for you here.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 7:46 am
oh – this is the most important thing we are here for – for our family, for our friends – for love, for life – wish you a lot of strength – these are sad moments with so much beauty.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 7:48 am
The important thing is that you’re there with him now. I hope you feel peace in knowing that. Much love.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 8:00 am
Sending you a big hug. You have brought so much joy to this world, he must be incredibly proud of you. x
Oct 30th, 2018 / 8:16 am
Fragile? Precious?
Oct 30th, 2018 / 8:19 am
charmolypi
Oct 30th, 2018 / 8:21 am
Walking your Dad home – a precious gift for both of you.
Your Dad has been blessed even when you couldn’t be by his side. He has raised a beautiful human being in you. Through the medium of your blog you have spoken to thousands and me of warmth, generosity and joy. Journey through the grief with the confidence that love never ends.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 8:23 am
Bittersweet
Oct 30th, 2018 / 8:38 am
Viel Kraft dir und deiner Familie!
Oct 30th, 2018 / 8:50 am
My answer is “LIFE”….best wishes to you, your family. ?
Oct 30th, 2018 / 9:00 am
Lots of love to you and your family.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 9:16 am
Glennon Doyle Melton calls it ‘brutiful’.
When life is brutal and beautiful in equal measure.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 9:21 am
SAUDADE: has been described as “the love that remains” after someone is gone. It is the recollection of feelings, experiences, places or events that once brought excitement, pleasure, well-being, which now trigger the senses and make one live again. It can be described as an emptiness, like someone that should be there in a particular moment is missing, and the individual feels this absence. It brings sad and happy feelings all together, sadness for missing and happiness for having experienced the feeling.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 9:22 am
You bring so much light to so many of us… sending love and hugs your way. I’m so sorry you’re going through this
Oct 30th, 2018 / 9:41 am
Glennon Doyle Melton’s “brutiful”
Oct 30th, 2018 / 9:46 am
The word that comes to mind is Pathos. I bid you peace at this difficult time.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 10:03 am
Poignant.
Sending you love.
May you know comfort.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 10:04 am
Your blog has been uplifting to me. Sending love and strength to you and your family.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 10:58 am
Your selections in your blog really help to understand life in a lovely way. I hope your dad will recover soon.. Sending you love…
Oct 30th, 2018 / 12:14 pm
….poignant.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 12:42 pm
profound.
“Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go”
sending love.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 12:43 pm
Bittersweet. <3
Oct 30th, 2018 / 12:49 pm
We have a word in portuguese that is just that – Saudade.
there is no translation possible. Is a feeling, is a longing, it is the ability of missing someone even if they are still in from of us.
It is sadly during these times, when we see the fragility of our parents, that we see that they aren’t immortal and will not be here forever.
I really know how you are feeling. hang in there.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 1:42 pm
Sending you love!
Oct 30th, 2018 / 1:49 pm
Glennon Doyle calls it ‘brutiful.’ Peace to you and your family.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 1:54 pm
Being with your dad, in quietness – is beautiful.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 2:41 pm
The word for me is “human.”
Peace to you and your family.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 3:08 pm
I guess it’s LOVE, in a way.
You’re doing the right thing now. Don’t dwell on the past. Be free.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 3:35 pm
Your dad is so lucky to have such a caring, compassionate, loving daughter — even if she does live across the pond. Blessings to you and your family. A sweet prayer to your dad.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 3:49 pm
Light
Oct 30th, 2018 / 4:08 pm
Light
Oct 30th, 2018 / 4:08 pm
<3
Oct 30th, 2018 / 4:10 pm
Sending strength––you are a loving daughter!
Oct 30th, 2018 / 4:35 pm
Knowing he is leaving you on this planet to keep making it better, your father can go with a sense of peace surrounding his spirit. Love is undeniable. Sometimes, words are unnecessary.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 5:56 pm
“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28–30)
Oct 30th, 2018 / 9:04 pm
Simply, PRESENCE. Wishing you more.
Oct 30th, 2018 / 10:42 pm
Sending love
Oct 31st, 2018 / 2:42 am
Oh ja … das war für mich vor zwei jahren auch das schlimmste, dieses „einfach-da-sein“, das aushalten der situation und meinen vater einfach begleiten und in liebe loslassen, alles was nicht so gut war, vergessen und einfach da-sein …. dankbar und liebend. Fühl dich umarmt!
Alles liebe!
Oct 31st, 2018 / 3:03 am
Oh ja – viel zu selten können alle Beteiligten das zulassen – mein Papa ist so von “der alten Schule” ala “ein Indianer kennt keinen Schmerz” – und Gefühle zulassen kann er nur schwer, genauso wie er es schwer erträgt sie zu erleben. Und trotzdem – LIEBEn wir sie! Und das ist gut so!
Viel Kraft und auch Freude für die kommende Zeit &
Alles Liebe und Gute für euch!
Oct 31st, 2018 / 3:16 am
Oh you beautiful thing. Your Dad is a part of you and the love between you both will outlive us all. I am sending you love and strength and please know how much you mean to so many people near and far and we’re all gathered around you and hugging you tight xxxxx
Oct 31st, 2018 / 3:45 am
I went thru the same experience with my father ! Courage et hauts les cœurs !
Oct 31st, 2018 / 9:05 am
When my father was in the hospital (and, as it turned out, dying), I flew across the country to be with him. I was there for ten days and spent each day by his bedside. It was both oppressive and life affirming. I did not get a chance to say goodbye to my mother. But, I wanted this time to be different. On the last day, before flying home, I went to his bedside, knowing that I would not see him again. He was sleeping. As an artist and designer, I am observant. And, I took this chance to remember him by looking closely at him, moving from head to toe.
When I left, as difficult as it was, I realized there was something very rich in what I had experienced. I had a difficult relationship with my father. But, I couldn’t deny how important that last look was.
I hope things are looking up for your father.
Oct 31st, 2018 / 10:34 am
Sending you much love <3
Oct 31st, 2018 / 11:49 am
Sending love and peace to you and your family
Oct 31st, 2018 / 1:07 pm
Sending you love and strength.
Oct 31st, 2018 / 2:50 pm
I call that feeling bodhicitta. Traditionally it means enlightened mind, but I’ve heard Pema Chödrön describe it as extreme tenderness of the heart. When you feel the supreme tenderness and beauty of life.
I send you and your family my best thoughts.
Oct 31st, 2018 / 3:33 pm
Melancholy
Oct 31st, 2018 / 4:09 pm
Sending love. You’re in our thoughts
Oct 31st, 2018 / 7:34 pm
All my best to you and you family.
Mercedes Sosa singing “Gracias ala Vida” is a good companion to the heatbreaking & beautiful.
https://youtu.be/cIrGQD84F1g
Oct 31st, 2018 / 11:00 pm
Il modo migliore di passare il proprio tempo, tenendo la mano del proprio padre, quando li lui ne ha più bisogno.
Hai la mia stima.
Davide
Nov 1st, 2018 / 10:00 am
Much love and strength to you and your dad.
Nov 1st, 2018 / 4:21 pm
Das ist für mich jetzt eIn trauriger
und umso schönerer Moment.
Alles, alles Gute!
Nov 2nd, 2018 / 6:21 am
The best time to tell you love somebody, was yesterday. The next best time is today…
Nov 2nd, 2018 / 10:33 am
L O V E.
Just be love.
Nov 2nd, 2018 / 11:19 am
The word that is both heartbreaking and beautiful …is “Life”
I have been there… sending love
Nov 2nd, 2018 / 1:21 pm
So sorry, went thru this recently. It’s a gift for both of you that you are there.
Nov 2nd, 2018 / 9:44 pm
Courage
Nov 3rd, 2018 / 4:18 am
Send you love!
Thanks for sharing.
Nov 3rd, 2018 / 9:36 am
Sending love to you and your family. You are an amazing woman Tina!
Nov 3rd, 2018 / 3:54 pm
I lived the same thing a few years ago with my grandma, holding her hand and saying goodbye. To this day sometime, when I think about heartbreak and beauty, I think about that day, I think about her.
Maybe the only word possible is the name of the people we loved.
Thank you for sharing, I hugged my family a little bit tighter today.
I’m so very sorry, sending you love and hope from Italy.
Nov 4th, 2018 / 6:49 pm
<3
Nov 5th, 2018 / 12:53 am
Dear Tina, lots of love and strength to you and your loved ones.
Nov 5th, 2018 / 2:48 am
I come to your blog often for a couple of years for a sprinkle of something interesting, uplifting and necessary. Thank you for sharing this moment too.
I also think is your word is “saudades”. It is an inexplicable mix of love, happiness, loss, longing for more time, to go back in time, to make a present moment last longer, to replicate an specific point in time you deem precious only later. It makes you smile, it makes you tear up. You feel lucky, angry and grateful. With what ifs and with resolution. You can feel saudades for the little everyday things and the big ones. You are very lucky when you can express how much “saudades” you feel towards a person or a moment you can relive. When you feel it, it aches in every single cell of your body and you are at loss of words to describe how you are feeling. Because there is so much you want to say. I believe is a loving word, not a sad one as I believe you can only feel “saudades” for someone or a time that nourished and changed your soul.
Nov 5th, 2018 / 11:32 am
Both of you are lucky to have each other. I wish you peace on this journey.
Nov 5th, 2018 / 3:27 pm
Vulnerable.
It’s an unusually powerful state of being from my perspective, where you open the door to feeling – and being connected to – a moment, a person and a time that imprints itself on you forever.
Wishing you and your family hope and healing.
Nov 5th, 2018 / 4:43 pm
Sending love to you, your dad and entire family. What I have witnessed through life is that, the four walls of hospitals and waiting rooms has the most earnest,and loving words, intentions, and actions.
Throughout life, you need to keep saying this, There is no right time for these words.There is only the time you say it and the time you wished you’d said it more.
Nov 6th, 2018 / 9:37 pm
The Japanese must have a word for it! Wish I knew….
Nov 11th, 2018 / 4:48 pm