“Friendship insecurity remains a final hurdle in how I interact in the world, but I’m realizing that if I want close, family-level friendships, I need to act as if I am already in them. Even if it brings me discomfort to text my friend an unprompted update about my life so they will feel more inclined to text me about one of theirs in the future. While most of my friends’ behaviors haven’t drastically changed overnight in response, I remain hopeful that I am slowly moving toward tighter bonds. And my growing friendship with my neighbor is shifting into the type of dynamic I’ve been so hungry for — much to my delight.”
– By Allison Raskin
Lovely read about Adult Friendship. Stumbled upon thanks to this thoughtful TikTok.
Yeah. I’m always the one to initiate contact with most of my friends. We have fun when we get together. But I’m pretty sure if I decided not to initiate and waited on them to reach out, I’d never see or hear from them again. Good luck Allison! :-)
Sep 1st, 2024 / 11:39 pm